Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the idea of change. Sounds cliché that as a therapist change is what’s on my mind but that it is. We are always in a state of change. You and I are different in this moment than we were in the preceding one. Life is a constant sea of ups and downs. Three years ago I came across this quote about change that spoke to the depths within me. It says:
“Mediocrity does not change the world. People who live their life far away from the cliff don’t do things that change the world. People who change the world are people who take chances. Imbedded in impulsivity is creativity.” (Taken from the movie A.D.D. & Loving it?!)
Since I read this quote I often wonder how much mediocrity plays in our lives. The act of being sometimes is a difficult project. Waking up in the morning realizing that the world is asking for one to be authentic and alive can be scary. As beings in the world, we are asked to take chances for change to happen. Why does change scare many of us?
Fear! Yes, that four little word is what stops many of us (myself included) from changing. Fear occurs when the future is unknown and this experience can paralyze us. Ask me to do something simple and generally, it is no problem. Ask me to change and go into the realm of the unknown and fear sets in. Who wants to jump off the cliff? Not knowing what is at the bottom can create a deep feeling of dread and panic within a person. Many of the people I have worked with in counseling have dreaded taking a risk and changing their minds and behaviors and it always (9 out of 10 times) relates to fear of the unknown.
Today, I ask that we dialogue with the side of ourselves that has apprehension about changes we need to make in our lives. One approach that I often take is to write my fears about changes I need to make and write questions about where this idea came from and what makes it true. In doing this type of activity one is able to see that fears often times come from places of genuine concern. However, this is not always the case. Fears can also have an irrational part to them. Doing this type of work allows one to engage with their rational mind to better understand the cause of fear and reasons change can be of benefit.
The quote above reminds me that taking chances can bring us to a new life and experiential level. Creativity and meaning in life for me come when I am willing to take chances and risk things. Let us remember that life is short and if lived without any risks it leaves room for regrets. Thus, I ask you to go beyond what is a normal fear based response and proceed ahead. Take charge of life and do not let the power of fear take away your chances to change. Another quote that I am particular fond of says “You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change.” In a world that is growing exponentially, the possibilities to change are endless. Fear is like a virus. If you lead it spread then you will stay stuck in whatever place you find yourself. However, if you allow yourself freedom to take chances you will be impressed with what can happen in your life.
Please feel free to share a story about the power of chance and change in your life in the comment section below.
May your life journey continue to bring you joyful moments and opportunities for growth,